Body language plays a crucial role in our daily lives, whether we know it or not.
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From casual interactions with strangers to more formal exchanges with
colleagues; we can reveal to people what we’re all about (or not about)
with just a few simple gestures.
For confident and successful people, positive body language tends to
be part of their make-up but for others, a bit of gentle reminding may
be required.
Avoiding eye contact
Eye contact is a sign of respect and interest. Flickr/Simon Clancy
A lack of eye contact can indicate that you’ve got something to hide or that you lack confidence and interest.
When it comes to communicating in the workplace, maintaining
eye contact is crucial – it conveys confidence, leadership and strength.
Weak handshake
A proper handshake is key.Justin Sullivan/Getty
Although a handshake only lasts a couple of seconds, a bad one can leave an enduring impression on someone.
A study done by the University of Iowa in 2008
found that those people who start job interviews with a firm, strong
handshake are always perceived in a more favorable light than those who
have a limp handshake.
Slouching
Be sure you have good posture.Flickr/Strelka Institute for Media, Architecture and Design
Slouching or bad posture signals that you lack confidence and
have low energy levels. If your back is curved and your shoulders are
pointing inwards, it makes sense that you will appear physically
smaller.
On the other hand, good posture, i.e. a straight back and
perked-up shoulders, maximizes the amount of space you fill and so
denotes control and assertion
Crossed arms
Crossing your arms portrays you as disinterested.istolethetv/flickr
Crossed arms can act as a physical barrier that suggest you’re
not open to what the other person is saying. Also, depending on the
context, they can indicate defensiveness.
If you want people to view you as open-minded and interested, it is best to keep your hands at your sides.
Exaggerated gestures
Don't overdo your hand gestures.Flickr/Mitch Bennett
Overzealous or exaggerated gestures can suggest that you are
chaotic or that you’re stretching the truth. If you tend to communicate
with your hands, try to use small, controlled gestures to show
leadership and confidence.
Also, ensure you use open gestures, for example, showing the
palms of your hands – this helps to communicate that you have nothing to
hide.
Fidgeting
Fidgeting can make you appear nervous.Eje Gustafsson/flickr
Fidgeting can include playing with your hair, biting your lip
or tapping your fingers on a table. It usually signals that you’re
anxious or disinterested and is best avoided if you wish to demonstrate
enthusiasm and confidence.
In a survey
of 2,100 hiring managers conducted by CareerBuilder, 29% identified
fidgeting as the biggest body language faux pas made by job seekers.
Invading personal space
Give people their personal space.Flickr/Nordic Innovation
Standing too close to someone (nearer than one and a half feet) suggests that you have no understanding of personal space.
An invasion of personal space can make people feel
uncomfortable. Approximately 3 to 8 feet is an appropriate distance in
which to converse with work colleagues, casual acquaintances and
strangers.
Failing to smile
Smiling is crucial.T.J. Kirkpatrick/Getty Images
Smiling demonstrates confidence, openness, and energy. Importantly, in the case of formal exchanges, it also sets off the mirror neurons
in your listener, instructing them to smile back. Even a nervous smile
is better than no smile at all but remember, don't overdo it.
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